Do we have a choice
Lately I’ve been thinking about choices and how we all have them. Yes? No?
When facing a crossroad in life – yes, there’s a choice to take. And it’s yours. Sometimes we might say “but I didn’t have a choice“… but I often find that we do.
Blame it on the people, places, parents, experiences, friends, traumas, timing… but in the end – it’s just you. Isn’t it? When no one is around – who do you ask? You, making your own truths. Even when they’re not – they’re your truths – which becomes true, to you. That’s why I believe we need to stop blaming and instead see the fact that there’s an explanation to most things.
For example, there’s a reason to why a certain person is feeling a certain way.. There’s an explanation to why a child growing up with abuse might end up hitting or taking hits, or none of the two… The same way there’s an explanation to why you always go for the easy choice. There’s a reason why we think and feel and act the way we do. Isn’t that quite comforting? And just knowing this, we gain control. We, in the front seat, with both hands on the wheel, are in charge of our own lives, choices and truths. Not cancer, not death, not heartbreak, not time – but us, our actions, our reactions – our voice, our choice. If we choose to.
In many many situations we excuse ourselves and lean back. We let someone else take the wheel. I know I have. But in many situations, that’s just undermining ourselves. Not giving ourselves enough credit. Because making a choice doesn’t always mean making a good or a right one – but it is still making one. Even when you’re scared and confused, or certain and strong.
Isn’t it amazing how we can not control a lot of things in life – but can control our own choices?
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What do you think? Can you find a situation where you felt like you “didn’t have a choice”? What are your choices today and tomorrow?